I read my friend's entry on this issue. I agree with her that in order to make a relationship (can be friendship, romantic relationship, etc) work out, it needs some trust, commitment, and courage (sometimes?), and let me add forgiveness and understanding . But I'd like to underscore that it needs mutual efforts, it can't only be from one party.
I have to say that I'm fortunate, since I never really have a friend who say to me that he/she want to break up the relationship (except the first guy I kinda 'dated' with). But it doesn't mean that I never be hurt in a relationship. I was once slandered by my classmate for a thing that I wasn't even aware of. It was a trivial matter, but still it hurt. I didn't talk to him for a few days, but then I just let it go~~ and started a convo with him again.
So from that I can say that forgiveness is like a water for a dying and wilted plant. It showers relationship that has been hurt. It gives a second chance. It brings up hope.
Forgiveness can come easier if we understand the issue. When we see things more clearer and thus understand the reasons why it happened, then we can let it go easier~~
And one more thing, feeling itself is impermanent. Just like the case I had with my friend above, I could start a convo with him again because my anger had subsided. So yeah~~ let the grudges go and start anew!
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